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DIFFICULT MOTHER? DIFFICULT DAUGHTER? Or Both? A Conversation with Karen C. L. Anderson


Have you ever wished for a better relationship with your “difficult” mom? If you’re a daughter, like me, it’s quite likely that you’ve experienced (or maybe continue to experience) some “tension” - such a polite word - with your mom.

Perhaps your relationship is merely strained; or maybe it’s toxic. Even if you haven’t spoken in years or your mom has passed on you still may carry the weight or scares of a traumatic past.

You may never work it all with your mom, but you can heal yourself. (And, for the record, it goes both ways. Mothers can be looking to improve their relationships with their difficult daughters.)

Enter my latest guest to HM2U, Karen C.L. Anderson. She’s a prolific and successful author on the topic of mother/daughter relationships. She’s also a coach offering her clients the support and self-reflection they seek as both mothers and daughters, to heal themselves and move beyond the trauma.

As Karen puts it, “As a woman, whether you are a mother or a daughter or both….it’s about finding peace within yourself.”

In this episode we discuss:

  • How we can find peace within ourselves to help process past trauma and abuse 
  • How societal expectations of women play out in a mother daughter relationship
  • How conflict + curiosity = intimacy 
  • The keys to understanding your nervous system in a conflict situation, and how we can work with our bodies and not against them
  • Learning how to be comfortable with being uncomfortable 
  • A new way to define boundaries
  • Finding what we value and how to transform them into boundaries 
  • Finding the best ways to communicate boundaries
  • Learning the process of growing up and making hard decisions from a conscious place 

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“In my work,” Karen shares, “I help men and women reveal patterns, heal shame and transform legacies.”  



Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration; The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal; and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic,

Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective.

To find out more about Karen, her books or her coaching, find her at www.kclanderson.com

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